Tuesday, November 14, 2006

90/10 principle

i've just read my aunt's blog on stephen covey's 90/10 principle, reminding me what i've forgotten. yeah, i'm actually human. wegra mudah lupa too. do remind me, if in the future, yet again i lupa. kalo tak putus kawan!!!

what does 90/10 principle mean? 10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided by you, how you react to a situation. your action, how you react is your decision laa kan. wow! man, we are really powerful. *mode gila kuasa ON*

with power comes responsibility. if 90% of life is decided by us, that would mean if there's screw ups, we should look at ourselves first. demmit!!! blardy hell betul stephen covey, i like blaming others lers. your principle sucks big time ok!

lets cut and paste an example (i donch have time to write ok, i actually have work in the office + i bet later today i'll beat myself up for wasting time this morning. that's an example in itself. wow! aren't i a genius. *psycho mode ON*)

You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just happened.

What happens next will be determined by how you react.

You curse.

You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over. She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus.

Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit.

After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60 traffic fine away, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye. After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home.

When you arrive home, you find small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter.

Why? …. Because of how you reacted in the morning.

Why did you have a bad day?

A) Did the coffee cause it?

B) Did your daughter cause it?

C) Did the policeman cause it?

D) Did you cause it?

The answer is "D".

taadaa!!!!

You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day.

Here is what could have and should have happened.

Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say, "Its ok honey, you just need to be more careful next time". Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good the day you are having.

Notice the difference?

Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different.

Why?

Because of how you REACTED.

You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% was determined by your reaction.

Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle. If someone says something negative about you, don't be a sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You don't have to let the negative comment affect you!

React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out etc. (suara2 tak puas hati: oiiyyy, but they started it. they must know they hurt-ed us, they must pay. an eye for an eye is cool, mate. it's way cool.)

How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you lose your temper? Pound on the steering wheel? Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do you try and bump them?

WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the cars ruin your drive?

Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about it.

You are told you lost your job.

Why lose sleep and get irritated? It will work out. Use your worrying energy and time into finding another job.

The plane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule for the day. Why take outpour frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control over what is going on.

Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger. Why get stressed out? It will just make things worse.

Now you know the 90-10 principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at the results.

You will lose nothing if you try it. The 90-10 principle is incredible. Very few know and apply this principle.

The result?

Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress, trials, problems and heartache. We all must understand and apply the 90/10 principle.

It CAN change your life!!!


taadaa again!!!!

wan bi, please donch saman me for plagiarism. good stuff are meant to be shared. i love you long time! :o)

sekian, wabillahi taufik wal hidayah wassalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh

p.s. yesterday, when i picked my mom up, i saw tintan. she's leaving for london today to join ip. bagus korang ni, can i squat at yours if i tetiba decided to visit london? hehe! oh and on the way to the airport after klia tollgate ... it rained heavily kan last night, tetiba my car bau rose kuat gila ... my sis + myself went looking at each other ... h.a.n.t.u. ke tu?

26 comments:

agus said...

Woh, it's like tracking down the killer! The one who murdered your day is actually yourself! Psycho siot...

agus said...

You can put as many multiple choice/selection as you want, A to Z, and it will still end up with I.

I did that.

Erra said...

agus

didn't i just go "psycho mode ON"

so, which do you prefer stephen covey's principle or lets blame others, the world is against you attitude?

;o)

ti.e.na said...

totally agree with the covey's principle.pointing fingers is so easy but later,deep down inside u know its u to blame.

weh weh wehhhhh..*hantu mode amai's style ON*

teehee :D

Anonymous said...

it was the cofee,demmit..
siut je erra,its D alright!
urgh..

daddy-0

mental muz said...

yup i agree with anonymous, it was D. If only he was drinking tea ..... hhmmm....

Erra said...

ti.e.na

tipu ti.ena!!! tipu!!!

semua orang salah, i'm innocent!!!

boleh menang best actress award tak?

daddy-0

*i owe you one kick in the butt*

enche azman, asal emo ni? ha ... what did you do this morning? :op

muz

i'm on your side man ... tiena yang choose to be with stephen covey

Erra said...

p.s.

i kompius ... bukan D) it's your doing ke? ... asal korang support D tapi blame the coffee?!

coffee = A

the answer is A!!! A!!!

mental muz said...

muahahah isit? sorry my bad, i follow je anonymous punya comment, but my initial logic is correct, it was the coffee. so the answer is A, yey!

Erra said...

muz

tu laa pasal ... bodoh kan coffee nih ... let's boikot kopi!!!!

Desparil said...

at first i thought you were talking about the 80:20 principle/concept for problem solving.. hehe..

Erra said...

des

richard koch's 80:20 principle?

nope, ain't talking about that ... we're discussing coffee here ... lets boikot kopi!!!!

where's my duit raya? thank you.

bertique said...

wah very informative!

we need to be reminded kan? good stuff, skang i teringat ngapa lately i stress gile.

sebab i bosan keje.

Erra said...

betik

we sometimes forget. tapi, we are more prone to mass amnesia. tak caya tanya farish a noor.

you rasa bosan ngan keje ke, keje you membosankan?

Anonymous said...

((hadir))

eh pompuan, one day and counting. i tot i texted you? why no reply? tepon kena barred lagi?

Erra said...

cik pms

my phone flat out ... charger tinggal rumah a friend. harks!

Desparil said...

was thinking of the '80% of your problems are caused by 20% of the people' or 'we spend 80% of our resources to solve 20% of our problems'.. don't know who's big ideas they are..

can't boikot kopi.. need it badly.

duit raya? entah..

superdzu said...

hey wegra

next week...u going to laundry bar right?

see you there ok?

Erra said...

des

huh?

*re-reading the first sentence*

sounds like koch but applied to personal development punya area. but i guess in both principles, the bottom line are the same - who cares, donch get affected.

ok lah ... i guess my duit raya collection this year = RM 1 + 40 yen only.

*wegra striking des off her duit raya pow list*

dzu

laundry ... i'll have to ... i'm fong fei kei-ing the girls this weekend (minta ampun tiena + zeeks) + i think i've been recruited to be zeeks kuli-batak-tanpa-gaji at the do

see you there!

des, be there! this is your chance to *cough* dzu

ti.e.na said...

who cares if u arrive 10 seconds later at work?

i care,man.the bosses care.BIG TIME.

Erra said...

ti.e.na

so ... who are you with now? stephen covey or the rest of us?

boikot kopi!!! boikot kopi!!!

*i kenot drinkin kopi, new diet guideline for me*

mummy-o said...

but i like coffee... (for now..)
so how?

(lari topik tak guwe??!)

;)

wénkt said...

love this blog!

Erra said...

mummy-o

you better bancuh a good coffee for me ... hehe!

wenkt

thanks very much

rubyahmad said...

Yo Ya! Saman you?? No way! Furthest from my mind. Am rather proud to be of service to you young guys. Plagiarize some more pleez..no lah, not plagiarize..take any part of my blog. You are most welcome.

Baru tau you dah blog balik. Good on ya gal.

Loves,

Wan Bi.

Erra said...

wan bi

hello wan bi! ayoh! you're reading ... erk! :op

wenkt

ok ... you're in lille, france ... does that mean you can speak french? ouch if you do ... 'cos that would mean you'd understand what i was saying to shazlan in my crappy french ... erk! ... excuse my french, it's been more that 5 nearing 10 since i last spoke the lancguage